“Self-love, self-respect, self-worth: There’s a reason they all start with ‘self.’ You can’t find them in anyone else.”
Valentine’s Day often comes with a lot of pressure and expectation about what the day should look like, whether you are in a romantic relationship or not. Instead of getting absorbed by the chaos Cupid and his little bow might cause today, why not focus your attention on a different type of love, the love you have for yourself.
It might sound corny, but your relationship with yourself really is the longest and most important relationship you’ll ever have. Think about it. If you treated your friends and family the way you sometimes treat yourself, how many do you think would stick around? We invest so much time and energy into nurturing and maintaining all the other significant relationships in our lives, and yet so often feel guilty or self-conscious about investing the same care in ourselves.
Not sure what it looks like to love yourself? You are not alone. Self-love is a difficult concept to explain yet something we all need to practice daily in order to achieve.
For the day that is in it we have compiled some of our top tips:
Choose to love yourself. This means spending time with yourself. We’ve been convinced that loving ourselves is considered selfish. But loving yourself is the best form of self-care.
Choose happiness instead of comfort. Don’t stay with anyone or in any one place because you’re comfortable and afraid of the unknown. When you settle, you’re never fully allowing yourself to reach your dreams. Your happiness comes first, so let go of anything holding you down.
Stop Comparing Yourself
Learn to stop comparing yourself to others, and instead reminding yourself of what makes you unique and special.
Learn to say ‘NO’
Practise saying ‘no’ to situations you’re uncomfortable with, rather than people-pleasing all the time.
We are all guilty of being too hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves when we make mistakes. You have to accept that you are not perfect before you can truly love yourself. Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.